Monday, June 14, 2010

Sad Day

If you are a regular around here, you know that my dad passed away last month after battling lung cancer. From the time he was diagnosed until he died, it was about eight months. So fast. Up until then, he had been perfectly healthy all his life. He did smoke for 50 years, which I'm sure is what led to his lung cancer. I think I was in denial for a long time. Even though we knew the tumor was inoperable and then learned that the cancer had spread to his brain, spine, and liver. I just kept thinking we would have more time. Just a little more time. But, it turns out that "a little more time" in that situation is never enough. I really miss my dad! He was so good to me and my husband and especially to our kids. Whenever my kids did or said something funny or mischievious, my dad was the first one I wanted to tell. He got such a kick out of his grandkids. I know they miss him, too.

This past week, a close family friend also passed away (my sister and I are both actually named after her). She was friends with my parents since their teenage years. Her and her husband, my parents, and two or three other couples were all especially close during high school and their younger years. Now, they are in their early 70's. At the funeral today, they were talking and laughing. Remembering their times together at prom, or just running around as young couples. They joked about their 55th high school reunion coming up and how they didn't want to go and see "a bunch of old people." It must be so hard, being at the point in your life where your close friends and loved ones are passing on. Of course, anyone can go at any time, but, I'm sure my mom is feeling a lot of sadness, having just lost her husband and her best friend.

I guess I'm rambling and don't really know what the point of this post is exactly. I'm just feeling sad. And, I'm also feeling like I want to take advantage of every precious minute with my family and friends. I hope you will do the same. Thanks for reading!

6 comments:

Angela said...

I am so sorry for you losses. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

septembermom said...

I'm so sorry Kari. I'll pray for you and your family. I often think of my Mom's sadness too as her friends and family have passed on.

Hugs.

Debra said...

I so understand and am keeping you all in my prayers.

I lost both my mom and my grandfather (her dad) within 3 months of each other, both to cancer. Both out of the blue.

It's hard, so very hard. Big hugs for you!

Sarah Lynne said...

It's ok to feel sad. Unfortunately that is a natural part of life. You and your family are in my prayers. Give your Mom a big hug from me!!!

Daniela said...

Oh Kari, I am so so sorry for your loss. I am thinking about you and your family.

Romapr said...

Sorry about your losses! I know we don't know each other but I do care. Losing people we love is one of the hardest parts of life. You are in our family's prayers!