Monday, June 22, 2009

The Big Let-Down

Have you ever had one of those times when you feel let down by your kids? When you are so mad and upset that all you want to do is cry or scream? When their behavior and/or actions have left you questioning where you went wrong as a parent? Well, today is one of those times for me. (Please tell me you have felt like this, too, so I'll know it's not just me being an awful mommy;o)

We are into our third week of summer break (our kids are ages 8,11,12,16). It's been extremely hot the last several days - in the 90's and even hotter if you factor in the heat index. Our air conditioner is not working very well. We are all hot and tired and cranky. I know I should overlook some of the general grumpiness and moodiness. But, today, my kids have done nothing but complain, argue, backtalk, and fight with each other. It's like they are on sensory overload or something - they think they must constantly have a friend over or be at a friend's house. That they must constantly be entertained. They've told me all day how I'm "so mean" and all I do is "say no". They've griped and complained because all the "good food" (a.k.a. junk food) is gone. I know they are good kids, but, right now, they are acting so spoiled and selfish.

I've taken away privileges for the day - no playing outside with friends, no friends over, etc. They've been sent to their rooms. I've talked and tried to explain how upset I am about their behavior. Currently, all is quiet on the homefront. Hopefully, things will be better tomorrow. I really just needed to vent a little bit. Thanks for listening.


septembermom said...

I think we had practically the same day. My kids were awful today!! They didn't listen at all. Was there something in the air? I even said that I would cancel summer. Now of course, they all look so cute as they go off to bed. I can't stay mad for long :) Hopefully tomorrow will be an easier parenting day for both of us.

Jen said...

You are definitely not alone. I've felt this way many times.

I've gotten to the point that every time they complain about being bored or start fighting with each other, they are given a chore to do. Mine are younger than yours so it has worked so far. I also brought back our summer schedule. They asked for it because I think they even know that they do better with a routine. I'm not sure that would work for a 12 and 16 yr old but maybe for the younger ones.

Good luck!